Thursday, October 14, 2004

Helping the kids

"If you're not part of the solution, you're part of the problem."

For a several months now, I have been volunteering with the county to help youth who have committed their first offense get a second chance to enter adulthood without a criminal record. Most of them are good kids that made a stupid mistake, they are worthy of a second chance. But there's the other bunch. The one's with broken homes or non-attentive parents, the ones you know if they continue will end up dead or in jail, the ones you think may be a lost cause because they know they want to rebellious. Raising a teenager has to be the hardest phase of a parents life.

I heard three cases. One kid just received STATE honors in Biology and goes to basketball camps in other states. Definitely bound for great glory and held up on a pedastal. The board didn't want me to handle his case, they gave me the bas-ass rebellious kid that needs a stern male influence. I'll do the best I can to make him want to do right, excell, and follow his dreams. He's one of those teenages who knows more than everyone else, so doesn't believe what adults tell them. Was I that bad?


At 2:53 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

It's great that you don't leave the children drowning without offering them a rope. It's their choice if they reach out to take it. I'v never raised a child, but I do think Black children are taught to follow directions without question (while white kids are answered when they ask why). IMO its from slavery, Jim Crow and lynchings when you had to do what the adult said. I think a child who asks the questions and doesn't believe anything without some explanation is destined for a wonderful future. Don't go like a sheep to slaugther. I think you should nurture his desire to know why, and teach him to be more productive and positive with his instincts.


At 3:50 PM, Blogger Karen said...

You're being such a responsible adult, I'm getting scared :) I think you'll make a wonderful mentor, you're a great listener and that's what a lot of children need... somebody who will just listen to their problems. It's not always about solving the issues, but rather helping them solve them for themselves and often the mere act of having somebody willing to listen while you talk it out is enough. Being around children certainly does give a different perspective, it becomes no longer about you, but more a matter of what do they need and what can I do to give them that (okay, sometimes it's just so you can get a minutes peace *lol*). Enjoy!

ps. If I be bad will you be my mentor? :)

At 4:27 PM, Blogger Karen said...


I'd like to think that children, regardless of race, are offered that 'rope' if it's needed.

I don't know if the problem is caused by becoming a slave to ones past,I think it has more to do with the large number of children (boys in particular) that grow up without a positive male influence in their lives.

Often the only positive male a child grows up with is a male teacher (and they're few and far between here).

People huh... they're the worst :-)

ps... D, every phase of raising a child has it's difficulties, the worst part about raising a teenager, i'm anticipating, is that you know that they'll be able to walk out the door if you stuff up. Good to see you're not taking the easy route and just laying the blame on the parents. Most parents do their best, it's just a matter of if their best is good enough. Keep up the good work!


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